kimray: My Story ... Our Path to Wyatt, 2/19 (long)The Path to Wyatt This story is difficult to write because I don't know how much or how little to include...as I write this Wyatt is on my lap laughing at the click, click, click of the keyboard and occasionally adding a key of his own. July of 1997 changed by life in a magnificent way ... I met my soulmate. Prior to this, I had been devoted to a career and then completing my Master's degree. We were married within a year in a most Magical Wedding Day, June 20th of 1998 (I was 35, DH 38). After a whirlwind honeymoon in Europe, we came home to get back to "business". We started an Internet based business (I left the corporate world just before we got married) and worked on home improvements (lol!). Eight months after we were married, DH was involved in an auto accident that has changed our lives. He had severe pain that was getting worse. We went through every type of treatment imaginable ... DH decided to have surgery on his neck in May of 2000. The surgery had complications that resulted in temporary paralysis for 24 hours ... talk about being scared ... there are no words to describe that fear. Thank God, the paralysis was totally reversed, but DH still has chronic pain. During this time, my clock was still ticking and I was getting nervous with each passing month. I felt somewhat selfish worrying about getting pregnant when DH was in so much pain. But, soon we started a complete effort to get pregnant and the months continued to pass. I tried Clomid from my OB ... my sister got pregnant with it twice ... maybe this will do the trick ... 3 rounds of Clomid later, still no pregnancy. I resisted an appointment with an RE as hard as I could, but finally made one. I really didn't care for the first RE ... they lost my appt, squeezed me in and I was in a paper gown during my entire consult, lol. He told me there was no reason that I wasn't getting pregnant and to go home and try longer. OK so we did ... still no pregnancy ... 3 months later I went to the RE that I had the strongest referrals for. HSG was fine, bloodwork was fine, FSH was fine, I was ovulating, sperm analysis was great .... I was unexplained. We did our first IUI in September of 2000 ... I remember thinking that this would be the answer. Two IUIs later, no pregnancy. We got coverage for IVF in 1/01 and I was ready to go. I couldn't wait. We did our first cycle ... I had a great response, but hyperstimmed. We postponed the transfer til the next month and froze the all. The RE said I had nothing to lose but one month. The following month I prepared for a FET and went in for the transfer ... only one of them survived and it was down to a 3-cell. We felt like there were 7 deaths in the family ... I was surprised how shattered DH & I were. We regrouped ... and decided to try again in April of 2001. I started the Lupron and 3 days later my brother had surgery. We decided to postpone again. The following month we started Lupron and stims again. The RE told me we would transfer unless the I hyperstimmed significantly (the hyperstim the other time was not that bad in retrospect ... as it played out). He said he would give me a bullet and a bottle of whiskey jokingly. Well, I did start to hyperstim. We stimmed one day longer than the previous stim cycle. I transferred 4 8-celled embies and the hyperstim went away, then around day 7, I started hyperstimming again. Yep, I was pregnant with a beta of 410. We had twins at the first u/s ... the next u/s there were triplets! The pregnancy naturally reduced itself to a singleton at around 8 weeks. The whole time I was pregnant I don't think that I believed that I would actually have a baby. I started having a lot of contractions @ 20 wks so they monitored me closely for premature labor. After losing two of the triplets, I took it as easy as I could. Mr. Wyatt entered our lives on February 19th, 2002 at 7 pm. I felt triumphant and victorious. Those days lost in IF-land were dark and uncertain. Wyatt is a beacon of light on a dark night, a ray of sunshine on a bright and sunny day. We love him so. I feel so grateful and thankful that this little boy has come into our lives. He is now asleep in his swing. Kim & Wyatt
|