KimberD: My belated story.....(m, mc ment, very long)

First, before I give my bio, I want to say that I really enjoy being a part of this wonderful internet community. If it hadn’t been for INCIID, I probably would still be floundering around in the world of IF and not having a clue what was going on. Also, this board in particular has been so wonderful – its great to be able to share my daughter’s life with all you wonderful women. I haven’t been able to post much lately because I’m so busy at work. I’ve read most of your stories and will save the ones that I can’t get to. I’m amazed at the strong group of women that we have….we’ve all been through so much heartache, its just so great to see that we can have happy outcomes. I also want to thank each and every one of you for your support and all the help and info that you’ve shared – even when you didn’t know you were helping. ;o)

My bio...
Born, raised, and still live in the suburbs of Atlanta, GA. I’m now 35, DH will be 35 at the end of August. I met DH in November of 1995 through mutual friends, we moved in together in 1997 and married in April of 1998. (Still need to scan my wedding pics…BTW, we have some beautiful people on this board!!) I've worked for a investment consulting firm for almost 6 years and am still in school (although on a hiatus now) working on my finance degree. I'm one of those professional students. Don't know if life will ever let me finish or not.

We started ttc before we married (went off BCP in October 1997)- call it a hunch, but I had the feeling we would have problems because my body had been doing some weird things. In June of 1998, I went to see my OB/GYN for recurrent yeast infections and was told that I was pg. I never did get a ++HPT at home, so I was in shock! I had some very light spotting in July and went in for my first OB appt at the end of that month. My OB asked me to come back for an US the next day, and the US tech asked (and I quote), "are you supposed to be pregnant?" as she was doing the US!! Well, my heart sank to my feet and I realized that I was no longer pg (if I ever was). My GYN called it a missed abortion, but now I realized that I must have had a chemical pg. I never did bleed or have a period until November of that same year with the help of Provera. We kept trying to get pg again to no avail.

In January of 1999, my goofy OB/GYN (long since fired) gave me a 6 month Rx for Clomid and progesterone suppositories and told me to come back when I got pg. I was told to take the Clomid on cds 3-7 and the suppositories on cds 17-21. I had no idea about “how to really” get pregnant – knew nothing about temping, etc. First cycle, I hyperstimulated - doc said to just rest. Second cycle, I hyperstim'd again and got the same answer. I skipped the third because I couldn't handle the pain. I tried one more and got the same response. My GYN never one time monitored me or did any US’s during those times. This is when I jumped online and started searching for info on Clomid, which lead me straight to INCIID.

After finding INCIID, I realized that I fit the description of PCOS to a tee. I met a now dear friend through INCIID and she told me all about PCOS and Dr. Sills. I called Dr. Sills (the PCOS board moderator and an RE), saw him in June of 1999, and finally got a positive dx. BTW, I found out through Dr. Sills that I wasn't o'ing which made since because I hadn't had an AF without the aid of Provera in over a year. I also found out that I was insulin resistant, which explained the 60 pounds that I had gained in a little over two years. He sent me to a dietician and started me on Metformin in September of 1999, and I started showing some improvement slowly but surely.

By that next Spring, I started o'ing on my own and getting AF again, but only every other month or so and very late in my cycle. Through a drastic change in my diet and bad habits, I also lost about 50 pounds. By the end of 2000, we tried some low dosage clomid (only 25mg) and I hyperstim'd again (but was monitored this time). We finally moved on to injectibles – something, anything to get me to O and also earlier than cd30 or so like I had been doing. I did a failed Gonal F/IUI cycle in February of 2001, which ended up with a very large cyst and put me on the bench. On my second benched cycle following that inj cycle, I conceived. Thank goodness I refused the BCPs that Dr. Sills wanted me to take to help with the cyst. Temping (which I became addicted to) and timed intercourse helped too…..or it could have been the advice from an IF friend of mine…just f* like rabbits and you’ll get pg. (haven’t we all heard that one?! LOL!!) BTW, the morning that I took my HPT, I awoke wondering how in the world I was going to tell everyone that I was pg. I almost fainted when I saw the +++ on the stick – first and only one that I’ve ever had. Also, this was on a Friday, exactly one week following the death of DH’s grandmother, whom he was VERY close. We now firmly believe that you have to lose something wonderful to gain something even more wonderful. She’ll always be Anslee’s guardian angel.

After 16 weeks of horrible m/s, I had a very uneventful pregnancy. I had Anslee Rose on January 10th at 10:08 p.m. at 36.5 weeks (she was due Feb 1st) after my water surprisingly broke around 8 a.m. that morning. I had her vaginally and didn't receive an epidural until the very end after I made it to 10 cm- right before I started to push (thanks to my midwife – but that's another long story!) Actually, I had a very easy delivery. Anslee was born perfectly healthy and weighed 6.15 lbs and was 19" long. I've been b/f'ing and have so far exceeded my plan to do so until she reaches 6 months. I want to ttc#2, but heard from many people that I shouldn’t deny Anslee (or me) of the b/f’ing experience for a child that might never be. Hard way to look at it, but it makes since to me now.

I feel that I’ve definitely been blessed. Anslee is the light of my life and her smiles always remind me of how lucky I’ve been - and that you do get what you wish for, but sometimes have to wait a very long time.

Thanks for reading, if you’ve made it this far. I hope to get her 6 month pictures posted before she’s a year old – LOL! Hard to believe that she’s already over 7 months old now.

Kim & Anslee 1/10/02

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